Whilst pondering today’s post which was going to be an account of “My October” – mostly the usual round of work, coffee catch ups, walking and more change – and probably not terribly exciting reading! I was struck by an emerging theme; how motivating myself and being comfortable in my own skin has enabled me to have the life I have. This has not always been easy, it is not an easy lesson to learn and for some people it comes naturally.
The importance of putting some effort in to reap ongoing, long term rewards and friendships can be daunting and full of anxiety – Do they want to be my friend? Have they got time for me? Have they got more than enough friends? Will it work? Am I doing the right thing? It’s too risky! I’m scared! You know what….. you have to have confidence in yourself, your abilities, your life and your experiences. #youareenough #selfesteem
I don’t know if it’s a confidence thing or laziness but I can be the queen of procrastination. I can put off tasks and suddenly find days have turned into weeks and weeks into months. Does this happen to you?
This can have an adverse impact on your self esteem. When you find you’ve not been anywhere or done anything, it can be debilitating and will feed your lack of self worth. You have to take some responsibility, take some action, fight your demons and be positive. So much of how our lives pan out is dealing with those demons and finding the mindset to accept ourselves for who we are.
I have found an inner strength to love myself and love my life. I’m not saying my life is perfect but it is mine and I am happy. I don’t have a lot of friends but I do make sure I see them regularly. I make the contact (eventually) to make an arrangement and I do the things I want to do, it is in my control. My self esteem is good.
I see a lot of chat and support on this on social media: it’s not all people showing off their fabulous lives! There are a lot of youngsters sharing their vulnerabilities and helping others to open up and accept themselves, value themselves and be deserving of happiness. Take a look at the fabulous Sophie Gray on Instagram . This sort of thing wasn’t available to me as I was growing up, if you’re struggling with these sort of issues please make use of the wealth of help and support available to you.
This blog is my personal thoughts on self esteem and not expert opinion or advice. For help on self esteem please visit MIND – How to improve your self esteem..
Thanks for reading.
You may like to check out my blog on loneliness , or the Offa’s Dyke Path last stage walk I did in October.
And one of big October challenges taking My Massage business mobile!
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