This blog is my personal thoughts on loneliness and not expert opinion or advice. For help on Mental Health issues please visit MIND.
Some days when there is nothing in the diary: no massaging or other work or social events. I like to keep it that way and challenge myself to be busy, happy, entertained and to spend no money! The latter I list because I know other people who would “go shopping” either online or to the local outlets to fill the gap. Personally this is a short lived pleasure followed by buyer’s remorse; also I don’t have the money to make regular shopping a joy!
Usually I choose to go nowhere and speak to no one. Well I may ring my Dad or have a chat with my daughters but I don’t have a phone book full of friends with whom I regularly chat to. I do like to engage on social media and may What’s App a couple of people……….oh the modern world!
So what do I do?
- Write blogs
- Exercise (I workout with a great online gym)
- Try to reach my audience on social media
- Listen to podcasts
- Listen to Radio 5
- Walk the dog …. I do talk to him (Benefits of walking here)
- Try to be productive to make progress with my blog and extend my audience
- I may plan and scheme; there is so much to learn about blogging and the ways to use social media to extend your reach. You can get lost in the rabbit warren that is the world wide web for hours, days…..
Happy in my own skin
I am not unhappy with this situation or my circumstances, quite the opposite although that’s not to say I don’t have down days.
I think this is because I am happy in my own skin and in my own company. I have accepted this is who I am, I love myself and I love my life. I am happier than when I’ve been in relationships. I’m not lonely; I may be a bit of a loner.
That said I do like to see social events planned ahead in my diary, not chock-a-block but something to look forward to …..a coffee or lunch date, a walk or theatre with family or friends or alone!
This blog was in draft when Julia Buckley published this post On Loneliness take a read, something will probably resonate with you. For me it was this ” For many of us, loving ourselves is about the biggest challenge anyone could suggest. But I think at least becoming aware that this is what we need, rather than looking for solutions outside of ourselves, can be an important turning point.” I think this is so true and can help with many aspects of our lives and health.
Do you ever feel lonely? What do you do when you’re lonely?
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